“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ~ Maya Angelou
Remember that, if you remember nothing else from this blog. Because that, my dears , is one of the secrets of life.
Maya Angelou, one of the greatest Americans who ever lived, is my role model, although I know it’s out of fashion to say that. She’s been a beacon at some of the most life-altering times in my life.
As a young lawyer I listened enraptured as she spoke about her life and what it means to be the ‘conductor of your life’. I wish I remembered more of that speech, but what has never left me is how she made me feel: Strong. Proud. Capable. Humble.
As a newly divorced mom with two kids under five, her struggles as a young mother put my efforts to rebuild a life and career in perspective and showed me that my life would be what I made of it, not what others wanted me to accept.
Her simple, wise words have guided my life; and hopefully, they can enrich your life and your wedding.
Without courage we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can’t be kind, true, merciful or honest.
If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.
You did then what you knew how to do and when you knew better… you did better!
Gosh, I got lost in thought just contemplating what each sentence has brought to my life. What I really want to say to you is this: make others feel as wonderful, excited and joyous about your wedding as you!
Let every person- your fiance, family, friends, planner, photographer, videographer, caterer, stylist, florist- know how grateful you are to have him or her in your life and helping to create your big day. Doesn’t have to be mushy or a drawn out speech. Just say the words that come from your heart.
- You made my day
- I couldn’t have ….without you
- I’m so [happy, relieved, grateful, peaceful] because of you
- You are so [thoughtful, detailed, spectacular, kind, creative] and it makes all the difference
You get the drift, right? And, while this way of being might not be your regular thing, I can guarantee you that it will be once you start doing it consistently. (Yeah, that means it will take courage) Why? Because it feels so good. And, truth be told, that’s where the power is. Brideability is the power to connect emotionally with someone else.
How about an experiment? For the next 24 hours make it a point to make anyone you come into contact with feel good with your words. Can’t wait to hear what you discover.
