You already know I’m big into words. By extension that means I think thoughts are pretty important, too. So, I spend a lot of time thinking about words, thoughts and how they can impact our world. I’m reading a new book by MJ Ryan called AdaptAbility: How to Survive Change You Didn’t Ask For It will be part of a post on marital mediation but for now let’s talk about one of her quotes from the book.
With our thoughts we make the world. ~The Dhammapada
Unless you’ve been living under a rock (possibly in Tibet) you probably know about Rhonda Byrne’s book, The Secret. It’s all about the law of attraction and bringing abundance into your own life on a consistent basis. Check out this 2 minute video on money attraction.
I don’t know about you, but watching that was fun for me. I’d like to believe that money is being printed just for me, wouldn’t you? While I can’t say I endorse the entirety of this message (after all, thoughts without action are just wishes), however, my thoughts have been realized. In fact, I like to say my husband came made to order!
Thoughts are intriguing things because they have such power. According to some Eastern beliefs like Buddhism our thoughts pave the way to enlightenment. I wonder what thoughts are going through your head about your wedding?
Are your thoughts happy and joyful or anxious and bewildered? Are those thoughts attached to a particular person, i.e. your mom, friend or relative? Are you hating on anyone who doesn’t kowtow to you as bride. What would be true for you if you stopped thinking negative thoughts. (That question is part of Byron Katie’s work) What thoughts would bring you and your loved ones the greatest satisfaction and fulfillment on your wedding day?
Your thoughts can run your life and ruin your wedding. So, it’s best to mind them carefully. Banish negative thoughts about yourself and others by actually noticing them when they happen and making a conscious decision to stop. Need some reinforcement? Put a rubber band on your wrist and snap it whenever you start ‘thinking evil’.
Instead, make a habit of thinking good thoughts. Scientists say that you can form a new habit to replace an old one in just 21 days. Why not say 4-5 words each morning as you awake to re-set your thinking for the day. I say: happy, healthy, wealthy and wise every morning while exercising to set my intention for the day.
So, come on. Share one of your wedding thoughts here. Whatever you like- think of this as a wedding version of PostSecret
