Comments on: Five Proven Tips For Calming a Cranky Bride

By: Jay Caballero

Jay Caballero — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 04:11:20 +0000

Hi Dina, I’m a wedding photographer. This is a great article. Thank you so much for sharing. Being curious shows your client you care, while being furious shows lack of professionalism. Thanks again:)

By: Dina

Dina — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 22:18:21 +0000

So now i’m tearing up because of the gift you received and the one you shared here. Thanks so much.

The initial reaction to my work as a conflict coach is often- don’t you get tired of hearing other people’s problems and whining. Well, no. Because as you so well pointed out, my life is enriched by seeing people at their worst striving for the best.

With you caring help that bride turned a horrible time into something she and her family will cherish. Curious before furious, indeed!

By: Rev. Sherry

Rev. Sherry — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 16:28:36 +0000

I try very hard to follow the “Get curious before you get furious.” rule of thumb. Twenty minutes after returning home from a 10 day vacation this Friday, I got a phone call from a bride who wants to book a wedding for Sunday. We personally write all of our weddings, it’s BUSY SEASON, I have a ton of work to catch up on, and I have just driven ALL day.

My first thought is: “You’re kidding, right?” Instead of jumping on that impulse, I said: “Gosh, that’s fast. There must be some reason for that. What happened?” Her answer: “My (groom) and I have been together for 10 years. We have a 6 year old son. We always figured we would get married someday. My dad took himself off life support yesterday. We want to have a wedding while he can still be here with us…”

So, I said yes. I rearranged my own life to fit her ceremony into my schedule. I also took time to help her find a violinist and a photographer. Neighbors helped prepare her parent’s home for the ceremony, and took care of the food. Friends were invited by the bride and groom by text message. Those same friends helped arrange other details for the ceremony.

And most importantly, this bride’s father got to “give his daughter away” before he died. Boy am I glad I decided not to act on my own tired frustration. What I felt was nothing compared to that bride. And when all was said and done, I was a grateful as she was that I had was given the opportunity to be a part of her wedding day.

I guess when it comes right down to it, being in the wedding business is not just “some gift we give to our couples.” Being asked to be a part of something so important is also a gift they give to us.
~Rev. Sherry Mullins

By: Dina

Dina — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 16:17:10 +0000

Thanks, Larry I’m sure other wedding vendors will appreciate reading how you’ve worked with brides. Stopped in phoenix on my way to Oakland and it was 110 degrees. oh man-that’s hot

By: Larry James

Larry James — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 01:29:14 +0000

I’ve only had two Bridezillas in the nearly 500 wedding ceremonies I have performed. They were both a real piece of work. I wrote about one in the article, “PLEASE Be on Time! (for your own wedding!)” at http://celebrateintimateweddings.wordpress.com/2010/03/31/please-be-on-time-for-your-own-wedding/. You might also like to read: “To Be a Bridezilla or Not!” at http://celebrateintimateweddings.wordpress.com/2010/09/27/to-be-a-bridezilla-or-not/.

Celebrate Love!

Larry James
Scottsdale, AZ
Award Winning Wedding Officiant, Professional Speaker, Author & Relationship Coach
Member: Association of Bridal Consultants (ABC)

By: Dina

Dina — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 17:56:26 +0000

Robin, it’s wonderful that you’ve had such success with your brides. Unfortunately, not every planner has. In fact, an article in the latest Brides magazine suggested that some planners feel very abused by their brides who ask them to do much more than bargained for. It takes certain communication skills, ones you might not get ‘on the job’ to feel confident selecting your Ideal Bride client. I’ll be posting more about that and those Bridezillas soon. Thanks for reading and reaching out!

By: Robin Spencer

Robin Spencer — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 12:56:34 +0000

Wow. This is a problem for wedding professionals? Never during the 600+ wedding I have done over 29 years have I ever had a bride be rude to me or take a fit. I would suggest that if this is a problem then you are either booking the wrong weddings, or not in sync with the bride right from the beginning. I have to wonder if TV has made the term “Bridezilla” trendy and some brides think this type of behavior is acceptable or cool.
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